How To Let Go Without Giving Up
How to find peace whether your loved one is sober or not
A free 60-minute live workshop with Amanda
You know you can't control their drinking, drug use or recovery.
But that doesn't stop you worrying.
Checking.
Waiting.
Trying to help.
Or wondering what you should be doing differently.
And somewhere along the way, their addiction starts taking up more and more of your life.
In this free workshop, I'll show you how to start separating caring from carrying - so you can spend less time consumed by their addiction and start reclaiming more of your energy, attention and peace. Which helps both you and them…
Without giving up on someone you love.
USA + Canada + UK - October 15th
California/Vancouver 1:30pm
New York/Toronto 4:30pm
London 9:30pm
Australia + NZ - October 16th
Brisbane 6:30am
Sydney 7:30am
Auckland 9:30am
4-day replay available
If you've been told to “let go” or “focus on yourself”...
...you may have wondered what on earth that actually looks like when someone you love is struggling with addiction.
Because you can't simply switch off the worry.
And you don't suddenly stop caring.
So we're going to make it practical, kind and help you do it in a way that you are still connected to your loved one, they still know you care - but you are supporting and leaning in, in a helpful and healthy way.
In 60 minutes, we will…
🫶 Know what's yours to carry - and what isn't
So you have a practical way to recognise where your responsibility ends and theirs begins.
🫶 Care about them without making their addiction your full-time job
Learn the difference between caring and carrying, so supporting someone doesn't have to mean monitoring, managing or trying to hold everything together.
🫶 Interrupt the worry, checking and “what if?” loops that consume so much of your day
You'll leave with practical ways to bring your attention back to what's actually within your control - and to your own life.
🫶 Take one small step towards feeling more like yourself again
Without waiting for them to get sober, stay sober, admit there's a problem or make different choices first.
You don't have to stop loving them to start living your own life again.
This isn't about giving up.
It's not about:
✘ Leaving someone you love
✘ Pretending the addiction isn't happening
✘ Becoming cold or uncaring
✘ Getting better at ignoring your feelings
And I'm not going to tell you what you should do about your relationship.
This is about learning another way, a better way forwards.
A way to care without carrying everything.
A way to support without losing yourself.
A way to experience moments of peace even when life around you isn't peaceful.
Because your wellbeing doesn't have to rise and fall with someone else's drinking, drug use, sobriety or recovery.
I'M AMANDA.
Certified Invitation to Change Practitioner
CRAFT Informed
Drug and Alcohol Trained Facilitator
I was a corporate accountant - university, professional certifications and a career I was proud of.
I was smart. Capable. A problem-solver. And then addiction entered my marriage and my life.
I spent years navigating the confusion, exhaustion and complexity that can come with loving someone struggling with addiction - including discovering that some of the “help” available to families wasn’t particularly helpful.
Today, through Addiction Makes Three, I work globally with people navigating addiction in their families, emotional burnout and the quiet struggles that can come with loving someone who’s struggling.
I bring more than nine years of personal and professional experience, lived experience and practical, evidence-based tools to this work.
Because the person struggling with addiction matters. And so do the people who love them.
Your peace doesn't have to wait for their recovery.
I've supported hundreds of women whose lives have become consumed by someone else's addiction.
And one thing I've seen again and again is this:
You can love someone deeply and still start reclaiming your own life.
You can figure it out as you go.
You can make changes first that aren’t dependent on their sobriety/recovery.
You don't have to become brilliant at “letting go” overnight.
…You can start by putting down one small piece of what you've been carrying.
Join me for How To Let Go Without Giving Up and I'll show you where to begin.
USA + Canada + UK - October 15th
California/Vancouver 1:30pm
New York/Toronto 4:30pm
London 9:30pm
Australia + NZ - October 16th
Brisbane 6:30am
Sydney 7:30am
Auckland 9:30am
4-day replay available
Feel less consumed
Spend less of your day worrying, checking and waiting.
Know what’s yours
Care deeply without carrying what isn’t yours.
Reclaim more of your life
Put your energy, attention and peace back into you.