What If Waiting Is the Most Dangerous Choice You’re Making?
Hey lovely lady,
If you’ve been quietly holding your breath, waiting for things to get better… waiting for them to drink less, to finally admit there’s a problem, to say the words you’ve been longing to hear.
I want you to know this: You’re not alone.
I’ve spoken to so many women over the years, both inside and outside my programs, who are stuck in the same place. And I’ve been that woman too. The one whispering, “Maybe this is just how life is, maybe this is just my lot.”
And that is heart breaking.
And I get it. When you're in a relationship impacted by addiction, choosing can feel impossible. Every single option feels hard. Sometimes it’s not “good” vs “bad” choices it’s “hard” vs “hard.”
So we wait. We go quiet. We tiptoe. We tell ourselves we’ll speak up next time.
We start to believe that we have to wait. That the only thing to do is ride it out and hope. And here’s the thing. Not set the boundary is a choice, Not talking about what the coming home from rehab plan is a choice. Following through on the boundary is a choice. Asking clarifying questions is a choice. Waiting to see how it goes is a choice.
But here’s the loving truth I want to offer you today:
👉 Not choosing is still a choice.
And sometimes, that choice whether it be silence, passivity, staying stuck, ignoring becomes the most dangerous one of all.
Let’s call it what it is: waiting isn’t peace. It’s paralysis.
Maybe you've said things like:
“I don’t want to rock the boat.”
“Today feels better than yesterday. Maybe this week will be different.”
“It’s not that bad right now.”
But deep down? You’re holding your breath. And that wait? It’s exhausting. It wears you down.
You deserve more than a life lived on standby. Waiting.
This is where things start to shift. Not perfectly. Not overnight. But gently.
One conscious, intentional choice at a time.
I talk more about this in a recent podcast episode:
🎧 Episode 52: What If Waiting Is the Most Dangerous Choice?
It’s a heart-to-heart about the invisible decisions we make every day and how to take your power back in a way that feels steady, not scary.
→ Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or where ever you tune in.
And if that episode stirs something in you… but you’re still wondering, “Where the heck do I start?”
I made something just for this moment.
🎓 It’s called [Discovery to Recovery], and it’s a 3 session self-paced workshop for women in addiction-impacted relationships.
You’ll learn how to:
✔ Make sense of what’s really going on (and why it feels so confusing)
✔ Get clear on what’s helping… and what’s hurting
✔ Build calm confidence to make decisions that feel steady even when they’re hard
It’s yours to keep. You can do it in private, at your own pace. And it’s just $77.
You don’t need to wait for peace. You can start choosing it.
One step at a time.
In Wellness, always
Amanda x
P.S.
If this blog speaks to you, would you share it with a friend who might need it too?
You never know who’s quietly holding their breath right now. And you might be the reason they finally exhale.